IS A MISTAKE A MISTAKE?

I have a question for you: Are mistakes really mistakes if you use them for your highest good ... if you use them to learn from?

My answer would be nope. To me it would be an error to call them mistakes and that would be a mistake. :) 

Calling it a mistake is judging the experience before the results are in.

Every experience has the potential to support your learning growth and advancement.

And we get to choose. You can stay in a limited place - something happened to me - or I messed up - - - or you can pause and shift to a place of curiosity and wonder. You can ask yourself, "What can I learn here?" "What am I trying to teach myself through this experience?"

My advice - sit down with a pad of paper and free form every answer that falls out of your head.

For example, in my past - I was leaving a relationship. In the beginning I thought he was The One. I had found out he Was Not - thus the Exit Strategy.

I remember putting myself in the Pity Pot, whining about having made another relationship mistake. "Oh No! I can't make relationships work." . . . Whine and more whine. Until I got tired of myself and I began asking better questions.

I sat myself down and challenged myself to answer the following:

• Who am I as a result of this experience?
• What have I grown into that I may not have attained otherwise?
• What has this relationship taught me?
• How has it grown me?
• How am I now more the woman I want to be?
• For what am I grateful?
• What can I appreciate about the experience?
• How has this experience served me?

Once I was on a roll I was able to acknowledge my participation. The good I had done - the risks I had taken. I began to appreciate myself.

Lo and Behold instead of Self-Pity and Self-Judgment I was left with Clarity and a Clear Intention in my Heart of what I Really wanted.

It wasn't long before I met my now husband who I have been with for just about 17 years!

This so called failed relationship was not a failure at all. It turned out the guy I was leaving was the One On The Way to The One. :)

A mistake? Nope. It was in fact an opportunity to grow myself into the person who could attract the man I now happily call my husband.

Every stumbling block can be turned into a stepping stone.

We always have a choice. We can go through life laughing or crying but go through life we will.

Are you going to engage with your current situation as if it were a stumbling block? Or are you going to find a way to transform it into a stepping stone to lift you to your next level?

You get to choose. Cool eh?

I think it is wonderful you get to be the one to make the choices that serve and support your well-being.

I think it is wonderful you get to be the one to make the choices that serve and support your well-being.

LESLIE QUOTE

There is no such thing as a wrong turn 
for every step gets you to here.

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