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TURN
WORRY INTO POWER
Worry that something is going to go wrong - is a
distraction from our creativity. If we are focusing on what might go wrong
we are not tending to the questions: "What do I want?" and
"How can I make that happen?"
Worry occurs because there are no guarantees in
life. If I take an action I will produce a result. What if I don't like
the result I produce. What if I don't like the result someone else
produces? What if....! Ahhhh!
Often people scare themselves into inaction because
there are no guarantees as to what may happen. We may get married and then
divorce. We may plan a vacation in a warm place for some sun and end up
with a week of rain and storms. We may finally get to Oz only to find out
we need to come back with the broom of the Wicked Witch of the West in
hand. Not at all what we had in mind when we started this journey.
Yet, it's important to honor the voice of worry.
Worry is a cousin to fear. Fear is an ally if we use it to serve us.
Here is what a dialog with Worry might sound like:
Worry: I am afraid we might not make it and get
divorced.
You: And then what?
Worry: We'll have to sell the house and I'll have to
move.
You: And then what?
Worry: I'd probably move to California, to be closer
to my friends.
You: And then what?
Worry: I'll ask Josie if I can stay with her until I
get things sorted out.
You: And then what?
Worry: I'll have to set myself up for income.
You: And then what?
Worry: I know lots of folks out there. I have a lot
of contacts.
You: And then what?
Worry: I guess I'd get my own place once I have work
in place and start over.
You: And then what?
Worry: By then I imagine my heart will have healed
some.
You: And then what?
Worry: At some point I'd start dating again.
You: And then what?
Worry: I don't know. I guess I'll find out.
You: Do you think you'll be okay?
Worry: I imagine so.
You: What do you really want?
Worry: I want to make my marriage work. Even though
I know I'll be okay I don't want to go down that road.
You: How can you help create that?
Worry: I'm going to talk to my husband this weekend
and tell him how much he means to me and what I really want with him.
Can you see how you have liberated all sorts of
energy that was tied up in worry? You have faced your fear and realized
that even though you would not prefer that path, you will be okay. Now you
can invest that energy into action to support what you really want. Way to
go! You have empowered yourself yet again, by attending to your attending,
and directing your focus
QUOTES
"Do not waste worry. If you're going to
worry, worry well. Put that energy to good use; aim it at an answer. Don't
forget: Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action."
~ Walter Anderson ~
PRACTICALLY SPEAKING
Notice where you are placing your attention. Are you
focusing on what goodies are coming your way, or are you worried about a
possible outcome? If you are running worry - great. Use it for your
advantage. Interview your worry as demonstrated above. Once the energy of
worry is liberated, focus on what you really want and ask yourself,
"What action can I take to get me closer to my goal?" Then -
take that action.
WONDER
QUESTION:
How can you turn your worry into action and power?
What do you really want?
Now what?
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