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MANAGING YOUR MOODS
Part
2: More on Acceptance
Acceptance is simply acknowledging that WHAT IS, IS.
The difficulty many people have with acceptance is
that they confuse acceptance with approval. By accepting something we are
not saying it is good - nor are we saying it is desirable, preferred, the
way we want it or that it fulfills our personal preferences in any other
way.
Acceptance is simply acknowledging that WHAT IS, IS.
When we OPPOSE what is, we create struggle. There is
no way to win. We can oppose gravity yet if we drop something the object
will hit the ground anyway. We can proclaim all we want that gravity
SHOULDN'T be, yet there it is anyway.
Opposing what is, the facts, creates a mood of
RESENTMENT. When we oppose what is, we live in a continual struggle
between what we think SHOULD be happening and WHAT IS actually going on.
We create suffering as a result.
ACCEPTing what is creates a mood of PEACE. From this
place of acceptance we can assess if WHAT IS . . . IS, and if so choose to
live with what is in peace.
Or we can determine if WHAT IS can be changed. if
there are POSSIBILITIES for something different. If WHAT IS can be
altered, we can take those actions to produce the changes that we want.
TAKING ACTION toward the possibilities of WHAT CAN
BE produces passion, meaning, excitement and ambition for life.
Acceptance is a key to living a peaceful and
passionate quality of life.
More about acceptance and how it relates to
possibilities in the next newsletter.
QUOTES
"Peace is cessation of againstness. So if
you're in acceptance, you're in peace - profound peace. You're not against
anything."
~ John-Roger ~
"Nothing can bring you peace but
yourself."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~
"When we have inner peace, we can be at
peace with those around us."
~ The Dalai Lama ~
PRACTICALLY SPEAKING
Where are you not at peace? Notice something you are
resisting.
PAUSE and take a moment to BREATHE, deeply. All the
way to your belly.
Allow feelings and thoughts to just be what they
are.
Accept WHAT IS.
Ask yourself: Do I CHOOSE to continue to fight? or
Do I CHOOSE to accept, to be at peace?
Let us say you choose to accept (it is assumed you
already know how to struggle). CHOOSING acceptance: "I ACCEPT that is
the way it is."
Remember, acceptance does NOT mean you necessarily
like it. I would suggest you accept that you do not like it.
Release the struggle. Just let it go and breathe
into acceptance.
SUGGESTION: Practice BREATHING every time you move
into resistance to bring yourself back into acceptance.
WONDER QUESTIONS:
- What am I arguing with? Where am I not at peace?
- How much energy am I spending resisting what is?
- What could I be doing with that energy?
- What do I really want?
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