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LIVING BY DESIGN NEWSLETTER
by Leslie Karen Sann, MA, LCPC
V6, #15
August 10, 2006

IN THIS ISSUE

MANAGING YOUR MOODS

Part 2: More on Acceptance

Acceptance is simply acknowledging that WHAT IS, IS.

The difficulty many people have with acceptance is that they confuse acceptance with approval. By accepting something we are not saying it is good - nor are we saying it is desirable, preferred, the way we want it or that it fulfills our personal preferences in any other way.

Acceptance is simply acknowledging that WHAT IS, IS.

When we OPPOSE what is, we create struggle. There is no way to win. We can oppose gravity yet if we drop something the object will hit the ground anyway. We can proclaim all we want that gravity SHOULDN'T be, yet there it is anyway.

Opposing what is, the facts, creates a mood of RESENTMENT. When we oppose what is, we live in a continual struggle between what we think SHOULD be happening and WHAT IS actually going on. We create suffering as a result.

ACCEPTing what is creates a mood of PEACE. From this place of acceptance we can assess if WHAT IS . . . IS, and if so choose to live with what is in peace.

Or we can determine if WHAT IS can be changed. if there are POSSIBILITIES for something different. If WHAT IS can be altered, we can take those actions to produce the changes that we want.

TAKING ACTION toward the possibilities of WHAT CAN BE produces passion, meaning, excitement and ambition for life.

Acceptance is a key to living a peaceful and passionate quality of life.

More about acceptance and how it relates to possibilities in the next newsletter.

QUOTES

"Peace is cessation of againstness. So if you're in acceptance, you're in peace - profound peace. You're not against anything." 
  ~ John-Roger ~

"Nothing can bring you peace but yourself." 
   ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

"When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us." 
   ~ The Dalai Lama ~

PRACTICALLY SPEAKING

Where are you not at peace? Notice something you are resisting.

PAUSE and take a moment to BREATHE, deeply. All the way to your belly.

Allow feelings and thoughts to just be what they are.

Accept WHAT IS.

Ask yourself: Do I CHOOSE to continue to fight? or Do I CHOOSE to accept, to be at peace?

Let us say you choose to accept (it is assumed you already know how to struggle). CHOOSING acceptance: "I ACCEPT that is the way it is."

Remember, acceptance does NOT mean you necessarily like it. I would suggest you accept that you do not like it.

Release the struggle. Just let it go and breathe into acceptance.

SUGGESTION: Practice BREATHING every time you move into resistance to bring yourself back into acceptance.

WONDER QUESTIONS:

  • What am I arguing with? Where am I not at peace?
  • How much energy am I spending resisting what is?
  • What could I be doing with that energy?
  • What do I really want?

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