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WHEN
YOU GET SICK AND TIRED OF BEING TIRED AND SICK
Do you ever get tired of hearing yourself complain?
Do you even notice when you are complaining? Complaining is an indicator
that we are sitting in the victim chair. Life is doing something to us, or
around us, and we don't like it, so we complain.
But when was the last time your complaints produced
any results?
They don't.
Whenever I notice myself lost in a complaint cycle I
ask myself, "What do I want to do about this?". If the answer is
nothing, I encourage myself to accept things as they are which is very
different than complaining.
For example, where I live there is a housing boom.
The rural beautiful countryside that I have grown to love and cherish is
turning into suburbia. I have heard myself complain about this over and
over until I got sick of listening to myself. When I asked, what do I want
to do about it, I realized getting involved in local politics wasn't for
me. So on a local level the answer was nothing. So I challenged myself to
accept what is and find the good in the change. (Easier said than done,
yet that is my focus and intention.)
If I find I want to take action, then I do it. I
allow myself to be clear about what it is I want instead of what I have,
chart a plan, and take action. If I notice myself complaining again, I
turn that energy into action towards my goal.
When I asked myself about the development, I did
hear another answer, which was "I want to move". My husband is
in agreement and we are in the process of THINKING BIG wondering what that
might look like, and what do we really want to create. So I am taking
action on my complaint, which feels much better then sitting in my
stinking thinking. As a matter of fact I feel excited about what we will
create.
Years ago I was in a battle with my administrative
tasks around finances. I resented all the time I was spending on what I
considered tedium. And because I resented it, I'd put it off, and it would
only get worse, and my complaining got louder.
I finally got sick and tired of listening to myself
and I took action. I hired a coach expert in the arena of finances, and
amongst other things, got my administrative process into a form that I can
now manage with ease.
I know someone who has a complaint about some things
going on in politics related to civil rights at the moment. He was sick
and tired of feeling helpless to impact change. He was tired of hearing
himself rant about injustice. He took action. He has started a grass roots
campaign with the intention to make a difference. He is alive with passion
and focus. He is motivated daily to create and discover. His actions are
working towards translating his dreams into reality. He is a man with a
purpose.
It is a huge difference to be living in complaint
and living on purpose. The former is akin to digging a hole to move into,
the latter learning how to fly.
Train yourself to listen to what you say to yourself
and others. When you notice a repetitive pattern of complaints ask
yourself, "what am I willing to do about this?" Listen to your
answer and take action.
P.S. Go to: http://www.weareamericanstoo.org,
and whether you agree or disagree, you can celebrate one man's willingness
to take action on his complaint.
QUOTES
"It is by your actions that you are
known."
~ John-Roger ~
"It is better to allow our lives to speak
for us than our words"
~Mahatma Gandhi ~
REQUEST
AND GIFT
I am writing a book on forgiveness. If you would
like to contribute you can do one or both of two things:
- ask me any questions you might have about
forgiveness, what is it, how to do it, why do it.....
- send me any story you may have about how
forgiveness, forgiving yourself or another has changed your life, even
in small ways.
Once I have received your questions or story I will
send you a link - and you can hear the audio of the interview I did on the
topic of forgiveness.
Thanks!
PRACTICALLY SPEAKING
- Train yourself to listen to what you say and how
you say it.
- It is especially useful to notice when you are
whining.
- When you become aware that you are in complaint
mode, stop and ask yourself what am I complaining about.
- Once you are clear about what is not working for
you ask yourself what do you really want.
- Now ask, am I willing to do what it takes to make
this happen?
- If the answer is yes, design a plan and commit to
action.
- If the answer is no, practice accepting what is
the way it is. Acceptance and complaining cannot live in the same
space.
WONDER QUESTION:
- Would you rather be a righteous complainer or a
person of action manifesting your dream?
- Are you willing to do what it takes to have what
you want?
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