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USING
THE NEGATIVE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
Meeting the Challenge of Change, Part 7
Once you have committed to the change you want to
experience in your life - pay attention. The fact is that if you were
totally in alignment with having what you say you want - well - you would
have it already. There are probably - well - most definitely - limiting
beliefs that have been keeping you in your current circumstances. Now that
you have declared your intention, those thoughts/beliefs will begin to
emerge and will challenge your commitment.
This is GOOD NEWS. Often those limiting beliefs are
hidden from us. We have been living in their parameters and haven't
noticed their influence. Now that you are focusing on the change you want
to become - you can catch them in the act of sabotaging your progress.
Notice the negative thoughts that bubble up in your
mind. You may observe thoughts like: "Oh, he can stop smoking, but I
am never going to be able to succeed." or "No matter what I do,
I fail." or . . .
These are just old limitations put in your mind by
you or someone else long ago. Just let them float on through. Don't even
pay attention to them.
Instead - use them to assist you along the way. As
quickly as possible replace a positive thought with the old limiting one.
Let's say you are noticing a limiting thought such as "No matter what
I eat - it goes to my thighs." Immediately drop in a better idea,
such as "Whatever I eat turns into nutrition for my body and radiant
health." or "I continue to be drawn to foods that are delicious
and supportive of my health."
The gift of this process is that you are using
EVERYTHING for your learning, growth and advancement - an essential life
skill. You are actually using the negative thought as a trigger to remind
you to Focus on What You Want!
Applying a positive thought immediately focuses you
on your change goal and serves you in staying on track. So all that
negative thinking that may bubble up can be used as a blessing of support
if you change each limiting thought into a declaration of what you really
want.
Ready to practice? What do you want? State it aloud.
Notice any thinking that might bubble up to counter your commitment to
change. Immediately put in a positive focus to guide you on your way. Keep
on going - don't let those old beliefs and stories get in the way of what
you want!
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QUOTES:
"Argue for your limitations, and sure
enough, they're yours."
~ Richard Bach
"What you give your attention to,
grows."
~ Unknown ~
"Commitment is keeping your focus, your
attention, and your awareness on what you have accepted and begun and then
sticking to it with single-mindedness of purpose. When you commit, it is
going to produce change."
~ John Roger ~
PRACTICALLY SPEAKING:
There is another powerful way to support you in
flushing to the surface hidden limiting beliefs that are lurking in the
dark corners of your mind. Sit down with a pad of paper. Draw a line down
the middle of it vertically.
Write on the top left column your declared
commitment. Example: "It is 2008 and I am thrilled to be graduating
with my Masters degree."
Now pause and listen inwardly. It is highly probable
that you will hear a voice arguing with what you have written. Example:
"Ha, you can't afford to go back to school."
Write the negative argument on the left side of the
page - across from your positive declaration.
Now go back to the left column and write out your
positive intention again. "It is 2008 and I am thrilled to be
graduating with my Master's degree."
Pause and listen if there is any arguing. If so,
write down the objection in the right column across from your positive
statement. Example: "Yea, right. When will you find the time to do
that?!"
Continue to do this - as long as it takes for the
right column to either show up neutral or in support of your positive
declaration. It WILL happen - if you persevere.
Example: "It is 2008 and I am thrilled to be
graduating with my Master's degree." Example Neutral Response:
"Well, hmmm, maybe." Example Supportive Response: "Way to
go."
At a future time, if you wish you can rewrite all
the objections stated in the positive to support your commitment to
change.
WONDER QUESTIONS:
- Are you willing to do whatever it takes to
manifest the change you are seeking?
- Are you willing to take dominion over your past
programming and transform your self-talk into positive, supportive
statements of your success?
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